Intimate relationships are an integral part of being human. Whilst we all hope to find safety, closeness, acceptance and unconditional love with a partner, we can instead find ourselves feeling fear, anger, confusion, loss, aloneness and emptiness.  We may struggle to create healthy relationship dynamics or find ourselves in endless cycles of conflict and pain.

Traumatic relational experiences from our past can prevent us from experiencing the connection we want and need in the present. Research shows that our earliest relational experiences with our parents or caregivers, have a profound influence on how we will go on to experience relationship in adult life. Our first experiences of connection create templates of relating, which in turn become wired into our 'attachment system' - silently informing the ways we go on to have relationship without our even realising it.